Infatuation Scripts review template

Disclosure: I may earn a commission if you buy through my link, at no extra cost to you.

If you have ever been told you are "amazing" by a man who still would not commit, you have probably wondered what you were missing. Infatuation Scripts by dating and relationship coach Clayton Max says it has the answer, and it gives you the exact words to use. I went through what the program offers so you can decide whether it is right for you.

[YOUR EXPERIENCE: one or two sentences on why you looked at this program, in your own words. Only say you bought or used it if you really did.]

What Infatuation Scripts is

Infatuation Scripts is a digital program for women who want a man to feel sure she is the one for him. It is built around what Clayton calls the infatuation instinct: a drive in a man's brain that, once it is switched on, focuses his romantic interest on one woman and makes him idealise her.

The program's main idea is that men do not choose a partner because she ticks every box on a list. Ticking the boxes only reaches the logical part of his brain. What switches on the infatuation instinct is a set of psychological triggers, mainly curiosity, investment and uncertainty, and the program gives you scripts (things to say and text) for each one. The research the program draws on is the work on romantic love and the brain from Rutgers University, SUNY Stony Brook and the Albert Einstein College of Medicine.

The sales letter is told by Emma, a writer who interviewed Clayton after a painful break-up and then helped him turn his coaching into this program.

Who it is for

• Women who have just met a man and want to stand out from the other women he is talking to.
• Women who have started dating someone who seems keen one week and unsure the next.
• Women in a long-term relationship or a marriage who want him to appreciate her and put in effort again.
• Women who keep hearing "you're great, but..." and want to understand why.

Who it is not for

• Anyone looking for a promise that a particular man will commit or propose. No program can promise that.
• Women who want "just be yourself" advice only. The scripts are deliberate, and some of them, such as the uncertainty scripts, ask you to hold back a little where you might normally say everything you feel.
• Anyone in a relationship with abuse or control in it. That calls for a qualified professional, not a dating program.

What is inside

The program comes as video, audio and an e-book, so you can watch, listen or read. The script types include:

• Independence Scripts and Intrigue Scripts, to spark his interest and curiosity.
• Cliffhanger Scripts for the end of a conversation, so he wants to see you again.
• Barrier Scripts, which let you show your interest without handing over control of the relationship.
• Curveball, Shaping and Temptation Scripts, which keep his curiosity up and get him putting in more effort.
• "Interested-but-not-sold" Scripts and Urgency Scripts, for when he needs to step up.

Clayton also explains the psychology behind each script, so you can adapt it to your own situation.

Three bonuses are included:

• The Commitment Calculator, with Carlos Cavallo, on the "myth of commitment-phobia" and the signals that make a man go from interested to cautious.
• Make Any Man Yours For Life by Amy North, on building a secure, loving relationship and protecting it from cheating.
• Why Men Shut Women Out by Slade Shaw, a short book of men's own answers to women's most direct questions about relationships.

Price and guarantee

Infatuation Scripts costs $49.95 as a one-time payment, with no recurring charges. It comes with a 60-day, no-questions-asked money-back guarantee, so you can go through the material, try the scripts and ask for a refund within 60 days if it is not for you.

What I liked

• It gives you actual words to use, which is where most dating advice stops short.
• It covers every stage, from a first date to a long marriage.
• The main idea is easy to understand and explains a lot of confusing behaviour from men.
• Video, audio and an e-book, so it fits around a busy life.
• One payment, three bonuses and a 60-day guarantee keep the risk low.

What to keep in mind

• The scripts only help if you use them. Reading them once and waiting will not change much.
• Some techniques, especially the uncertainty scripts, can feel unnatural at first if you are used to saying exactly how you feel straight away.
• It is a self-study program. Personal coaching with Clayton is not included.
• It is written for women dating men.

My experience

[YOUR EXPERIENCE: what you honestly think of the program or its approach. If you went through it, say what stood out and what you used. If you did not, say so plainly and share your view of the ideas instead. Never invent results.]

My verdict

If you are tired of being the "great girl" who never quite gets chosen, Infatuation Scripts gives you a clear reason why that keeps happening and specific words to change it. [YOUR EXPERIENCE: one sentence on who you would recommend it to.]

The best place to start is Clayton Max's free video presentation, where he explains the infatuation instinct and the "emotional tripwire" that sets it off. If it makes sense to you, you can get the full program from the same page, with the 60-day guarantee behind it.

Watch the free Infatuation Scripts presentation here

I may earn a commission if you buy through my link.